Joel and I are very different people. He is more relaxed and goes with the flow where as I am more impatient and wanting what I want right now. It's funny how life works and you get the right people when you need them. When he gets impatient, I find my zen. God must've known what he was doing when He put us together.
Right now, after all of the loss we sustained this last year, we are flip-flopping our relationship roles. When he's worked up over something, I am able to remain calm and help him figure out what is really going on. And when I'm freaking out, he's the calming force that sends my anxiety to the other room to get a grip.
In this last year, we lost my grandma, his dad, and downsized our business to accommodate being able to take care of his dad while he was sick. We moved our kids across the country to a place neither of them really knew. It's been hard for all of us. The adjustment period has been long and daunting and coupled with the loss we've all felt, we've all been on pins and needles.
One thing I do know is that where God takes us, He will provide.
Joel and I have always had faith that everything will work out in the end. And if it doesn't, it's not the end. So, we just have to believe that where the wind is blowing us is the right destination.
I have been working really hard to keep a positive outlook on my life and to really enjoy the people in it.
Having lost my grandma, the woman who raised me to be who I am, I am now more certain than ever that the world needs my voice talking about love. To remind people why we are here. It's not to make money. It's not to yell at people on the internet. It's to LOVE one another. To be PRESENT. To make MEMORIES.
Grandma would remind me every day these two things:
- Do unto others as you would have done unto you.
- Two wrongs don't make one right.
I can't tell you how many times she said these things to me over the years but it still holds true. If everyone treated their neighbor the way they wanted to be treated the world would be a better place. And if we remembered that just because someone has done us wrong, that doesn't mean that if we retaliate we'll feel better.
The Golden Rule still applies! And also, if you can't be kind, at least be quiet.